Sunday 28 June 2020

Enough is Enough!



It has been extremely distressing watching the footage of the blatant racism exhibited by various USA police, not least George Floyd’s gut wrenching murder. I would like to think this is a specific American issue but as we sadly know, racism exists in our own backyard and that is where we need to start to address it.

You could argue racism is a very complex and imbedded issue, and it is!

Martin Luther King had the answer. He was able to cut to the core of how to bring about change. This man’s integrity and the difference he made to humanity stands out in history. He was intelligent and was able to touch people’s consciousness by his simple and clear dealing with the truth. A stinging but powerful statement was his commentary around “the appalling silence of good people.”  

To be clear he actually said, “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about the things that matter.”

That’s it! Simple as that! “Silence is complicity!” We all have to take responsibility. It’s time for us all to stand our ground and do what we know is right whether it be on racism, workplace harassment, domestic abuse etc

We are all fragile beings that need and deserve respect, support and kindness. It has been so refreshing having some of our leaders here in Aotearoa modelling the mantra of this. Our PM, Jacinda Adhern spoke on the world stage at the United Nations Assembly where she called for a new world order ---one that puts ‘kindness ahead of isolationism, rejection and racism.’

Schools and families have the obligation to explicitly educate our young people with these central issues of human responsibility, but most of all, to ‘walk the talk’ as modelling is the most powerful weapon against the insidious nature of racism and harassment of any kind.

The issue of racism is complex and deeply rooted but rather than feeling helpless as an individual, we can all make a difference. We all have to be brave and speak out when we see and hear what we know to be wrong, as ‘silence is complicity’!



Thursday 9 April 2020

What Motivates Powerful Learning


Hard Fun


“70% percent of children drop out of sports by their early teens. Why? Recent studies show it’s often because playing sports has ceased to be fun.”
This report is essentially critical of coaches who over drill children and treat sport as a must win activity. This of course ‘kills’ motivation for many of our young people. The report goes on to say, “A good youth coach ensures that every practice, every competition, every communication is focused on all of the athletes having a positive and enjoyable experience. Youth sport should be about having fun while learning to work hard for a common goal, to prioritise developing skills over winning, to persist in the face of adversity, to be a good sport, and to be competitive. If all coaches got the proper training and supervision, many more kids would continue playing sports throughout their teens.” (1)
The reality is, this is the same for any learning. Sadly, many children are turned off school when it is repetitive, pitched to the middle of the class, drill orientated and boring.
The best education is ‘hard fun’---we all learn better when there is a bit of tension and stretch combined with enjoyment. This fits so well with the important concept of ‘learner agency’ where the aim is support learners incrementally to take more control over their learning. “When learners move from being passive recipients to being much more active in the learning process, actively involved in the decisions about the learning, then they have greater agency.” ( Core Education: http://www.core-ed.org/thought-leadership/ten-trends/ten-trends-2014/learning-agency )

Personalising learning (giving learners more ‘choice’ and ‘voice’) as much as possible is a powerful way of connecting students’ passions and interests (hard fun) which of course will help drive their learning.

This isn’t some woolly notion. It has to have rigour and struggle running through it.  I know it is a bit of a cliché but ‘no pain, no gain’. As you know this applies to all of us and we would be doing our students a disservice if we didn’t foster resilience in them.

As teachers we must have high expectations for our students and communicate these to them. This should be done in a positive fashion inviting and expecting students to be active in their learning and to be able to reflect on their efforts and talk about it. Making learning goals shared and explicit to students gives the learner a sense of ownership which of course is very motivational.

Praise and feedback is central to levering the best from the students. Some students will metaphorically need their ‘hand held’ more than others until they have the confidence and skills to ‘walk alone’. The need for this scaffolding and example prompts will vary enormously across any one class.

The concept of ‘learner agency’ is huge, complex and powerful in the learning process. Best practice here transforms children’s learning and is central to this idea of ‘hard fun’. In time students will become more confident and active in their learning. This intrinsic engagement / motivation creates powerful and deep learning.

(1  (  “Our Kids’ Coaches Are Doing It Wrong” by Jennifer Etnier in The New York Times, March 12, 2020 (reported in Linda Braun’s Hippocampus, April 7th 2020)

Monday 10 February 2020

The Time Bomb



Over the last week I have observed two situations which have prompted me to share this article written by Dr Luis Rojas Marcos (Psychiatrist) entitled ‘A Silent Tragedy’.  Dr Marcos is very experienced and highly regarded. ( see http://www.luisrojasmarcos.com/bio.eng.php )


This article offers parenting skills that can and will prevent sadness and distress for all family members and help set children up for success at school and beyond.

Dr Marcos is in a very sound position to give this advice and I know most educators would support his views. Don’t get me wrong, the vast majority of parents are doing a great job and are striving to be the best parent they can be but we should all read this article.

The first situation that prompted me to share this article occurred at a cafe whilst I was having a coffee. A young child about 4-5 years old was playing on a trike whilst his mother was having a coffee. When she had finished, she said to her young son that it was time to get off the trike so they could go home. The child responded with a firm 'no' so the mother engaged in a debate which resulted in the child just riding off leaving his mother stranded calling out, 'well just a few minutes more'. Over the course of the next 20 minutes or so when the child came within earshot, the debate ensued with the child defiantly in control and when I had finished my coffee and finally had to go, the mother was still glumly sitting there waiting for her son to tire of playing on the trike.

The second situation occurred a few days later when I observed a similar situation where a dad was negotiating a 'time to go' situation with his pre-schooler (about age 3)  with the child firmly in control and the mother watching on exasperated at the situation but clearly with no influence on the child.
In both these situations, my inner self was screaming with 'for goodness sake'! Both families were in for a rough ride with their children as they weren't prepared to be the 'adult' in the relationship and were unintentionally giving the children concerned the message, that they were the centre of the universe and they were in control. Often and usually, children who do not have the security knowing their parents are in control grow up testing all their relationships struggling to make friends and of course being the same sort of parent as what has been modelled to them. I won't go into the various strategies the parents could have called upon to make these situations harmonious and constructive, as I want you to read the article below which deals with this better than I could.

A Silent Tragedy
There is a silent tragedy that is unfolding today in our homes, and concerns our most precious jewels: our children. Our children are in a devastating emotional state! In the last 15 years, researchers have given us increasingly alarming statistics on a sharp and steady increase in childhood mental illness that is now reaching epidemic proportions:
Statistics do not lie:
·         1 in 5 children have mental health problems
·         A 43% increase in ADHD has been noted
·         A 37% increase in adolescent depression has been noted
·         There has been a 200% increase in the suicide rate in children aged 10 to 14
What is happening and what are we doing wrong?
Today’s children are being over-stimulated and over-gifted with material objects, but they are deprived of the fundamentals of a healthy childhood, such as:
·         Emotionally available parents
·         Clearly defined limits
·         Responsibilities
·         Balanced nutrition and adequate sleep
·         Movement in general but especially outdoors
·         Creative play, social interaction, unstructured game opportunities and boredom spaces
Instead, in recent years, children have been filled with:
·         Digitally distracted parents
·         Indulgent and permissive parents who let children “rule the world” and whoever sets the rules
·         A sense of right, of deserving everything without earning it or being responsible for obtaining it

·         Inadequate sleep and unbalanced nutrition
·         A sedentary lifestyle
·         Endless stimulation, technological nannies, instant gratification and absence of boring moments
What to do?
If we want our children to be happy and healthy individuals, we have to wake up and get back to basics. It is still possible! Many families see immediate improvements after weeks of implementing the following recommendations:
·         Set limits and remember that you are the captain of the ship. Your children will feel more confident knowing that you have control of the helm.
·         Offer children a balanced lifestyle full of what children NEED, not just what they WANT. Don’t be afraid to say “no” to your children if what they want is not what they need.
·         Provide nutritious food and limit junk food.
·         Spend at least one hour a day outdoors doing activities such as: cycling, walking, fishing, bird / insect watching
·         Enjoy a daily family dinner without smartphones or distracting technology.
·         Play board games as a family or if children are very small for board games, get carried away by their interests and allow them to rule in the game.
·         Involve your children in some homework or household chores according to their age (folding clothes, ordering toys, hanging clothes, unpacking food, setting the table, feeding the dog etc.)
·         Implement a consistent sleep routine to ensure your child gets enough sleep. The schedules will be even more important for school-age children.
·         Teach responsibility and independence. Do not overprotect them against all frustration or mistakes. Misunderstanding will help them build resilience and learn to overcome life’s challenges.
·         Do not carry your children’s backpack, do not carry their backpacks, do not carry the homework they forgot, do not peel bananas or peel oranges if they can do it on their own (4-5 years). Instead of giving them the fish, teach them to fish.
·         Teach them to wait and delay gratification.
·         Provide opportunities for “boredom”, since boredom is the moment when creativity awakens. Do not feel responsible for always keeping children entertained.
·         Do not use technology as a cure for boredom, nor offer it at the first second of inactivity.
·         Avoid using technology during meals, in cars, restaurants, shopping centers. Use these moments as opportunities to socialize by training the brains to know how to work when they are in mode: “boredom”
·         Help them create a “bottle of boredom” with activity ideas for when they are bored.
·         Be emotionally available to connect with children and teach them self-regulation and social skills.
·         Turn off the phones at night when children have to go to bed to avoid digital distraction.
·         Become a regulator or emotional trainer for your children. Teach them to recognize and manage their own frustrations and anger.
·         Teach them to greet, to take turns, to share without running out of anything, to say thank you and please, to acknowledge the error and apologize (do not force them), be a model of all those values you instill.
·         Connect emotionally – smile, hug, kiss, tickle, read, dance, jump, play or crawl with them.
Article written by Dr. Luis Rojas Marcos Psychiatrist.

Ref: Article and picture downloaded from:  https://imenough.co/a-silent-tragedy/